On intrinsic and extrinsic affection:

why do we get so depressed when things don't go the way we want them to?  why are there no perfect endings?  the unfulfillment of our dreams and expectations is so utterly devastating.  it's so hard to recover from broken dreams.  motivation just won't come.  because of these broken dreams, it's almost impossible to have dreams again, for fear of them being broken again.  most of the time, we don't want to give up on those broken dreams, so we cling to the pieces like a mother would cling to a fallen child.  we squeeze ourselves of every last bit of hope that our broken dream could somehow come true.  so what's the solution to all this despair and anguish?  what's the cause of these feelings?  

i think that the cause of these feelings is that we fall in love with something and that love never comes to fruition.  it may be a person, it may be a thing.  it may even be a certain situation that we imagined the future to be.  of course, we may get lucky and the thing that we fell in love with could return the love.  but in the event that this doesn't happen, i think that there is only one thing we can do.

learning to love our current situation, especially who we are is really important.  when we love who we are at this very second, we cannot have broken dreams, because they are being fulfilled every day!  i think that a big source of depression and self-discontent is lack of self-love.  loving who you are also helps you be happy and content every day.  

this is a very weird topic.  sorry if you got bored or depressed reading this!